Solving a mystery makes a good married
life
I have closer relationship with my husband after
I did the Breakthrough Technology Course. When I did this course I was in my
eighth year of marriage with three children. I really believed that I treated my
husband very well. When he came home late, I never asked him, “Why do you come
home so late? Who were you with?”
I always left him alone when he was not in a good mood. I never requested him to
do any of our house work or to do any work to take care of our children. The
company which my husband ran started to grow. My life wasn’t too bad and many
people always told me, “You two are always happy; you are so lucky”. So I
thought my life was going well.
However, there was one thing which that in the past really hurt and puzzled me. From time to
time, my husband would say, “You treat me with no respect!” It shocked me when
he said that, and to tell the truth, after all the good treatment I gave him,
how could he say such words to me? I really did not understand that!
My participation in the Breakthrough Technology Course, solved all this mystery.
The Landmark Methodology proposes that whenever we're limited in life, there is
something - a context or framework - that we are blind to and that is keeping
that limitation in place. This education allowed me to examine and give clarity
about the blind spots or framework which had given me this trouble with my
husband.
During that weekend I got to see for the first time that the framework in which
I have lived my life really was a huge resignation. Without knowing it, my
relationship with my husband was all a product of resignation. I always wanted
to work together at his company, to enjoy taking care of our kids together and
to share our happiness and sorrow together. But I never said anything like that
because I never thought he would understand me. I did not even try.
I was so completely resigned that I did not even recognize it in myself. So at
that weekend I found out that I was unconsciously treating my husband as if he
did not exist anymore. So no wonder; it had to be awful for him at home.
After I solved the mystery about him saying “You treat me with no respect,” I
was able to tell him that I was sorry for the first time. I never apologized to
my husband when we argued before. This time I actually said, “I am really sorry
I have been treating you with no respect.” This naturally came out from my
mouth. Since then, we argue more, but we get back together quicker.
By looking from his point of view, I can respond appropriately and there is more
closeness and intimacy for us. The Breakthrough Technology Course makes a
positive impact in my life and it’s really different than before. Now I’m
fulfilled with happiness in life for sharing our work and kids together.
Yuko Ukai is a housewife in Tokyo
