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Breakthrough in my confidence as a mother
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Miho Sasaki
英語塾経営
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I did
the Breakthrough Technology Course in August, 5 years ago. I have a husband, one
daughter who is studying at the university when I write this story, and a son in
the high school.
I got my first result from Landmark Education with regard to how I relate to my
son when he was 12 years old then.
I cherished my
son so much. His name is Junichi, so I called him as “I love Jun-chan” and doted
upon him so much.
When it rained, I
picked him up by car. I persuaded him not to play on the swing because it could
be dangerous for him if he lost his grip. But I worried that he was not active
enough at sports. I wondered if I spoiled him too much.
Then, as he grew
older, he started to ignore me and became rebellious. I was shocked by these
changes and felt that I was a stupid mother. That was when I took the
Breakthrough Technology Course.
In the course, everyone inquires about the “framework” or “limit” that stops or
limits oneself. I discovered that I had lived inside of the framework that said,
“Something is wrong with people and it needs to be fixed”. I had lived my life
that there was something wrong with me and I was busy to fix myself and every
one I love. This realization led me to a new possibility, “all people is perfect
as the way they are and there is nothing to be fixed”
Before the course, I had cherished my son like a pet, but I realized that I
never accepted him as the way he is and never praised him. A day after the
course was over, I went to the supermarket with Junichi, and I proceeded to
praise him. I told him things like, “Jun-chan, you are great at this and I know
another good point of you…” and I kept praising him. All the sudden, he looked
cranky and brushed me off.
I was mad at him and demanded an explanation. He told me that he made such a
cranky face because he was so happy that I praised him for the first time but
complained that I praised him so much all the sudden. I got that he was not able
to express himself appropriately, so I told him, “When your friends praise you,
say thank you. If you make a cranky face, they would get hurt.” And, he cried.
After that, my relationship with him changed 100%, completely. It doesn’t matter
if he can or can’t do some sort of things, he is still my son who I am proud of.
He became open and natural, he signed up for the kendo club by himself in junior
high and he got the best score in biology in his grade. Sometimes he played
mischievous practical jokes with his teacher and got scolded, but he always
shares honestly everything to me including his failures and mistakes.
Now, I have no worries about raising my son. Even if he is sometimes late for
school, and do other things that is not quite perfect, he lives his life with
full responsibility and he seems to be greatly happy. And, I have a confidence
to be a mother who empowers him as the way he is, no matter what will happen to
him henceforth.
Now, he is 17 years old and he is so much taller than I. He shares to me freely
about his school, his plan after the high school, his girl friend and about many
other things. I can talk to him freely as a woman and a person, not only limited
as a mother. From this Breakthrough Technology Course, I got myself who respects
my loving son as a person.
Miho Sasaki,
Manager, Private English Tutoring School.
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